That awkward moment when you have been sitting next to your favorite actress and someone has to tell you it was her for you to recognize her.
The truth is, magazines lie, social media lies, television lies. No one looks perfect all the time, and that is OK. Often times we forget this, and are disappointed when our expectations aren’t met of how they should look like. We forget they are human beings too.
But, have you noticed we do that with ourselves also?
We’ve all had days we are extremely hard on ourselves. If it isn’t the hair, it is our skin, if it isn’t our skin, it is our pants size. We are unhappy with how we look, and we talk very badly to ourselves. Many times we convince ourselves we aren’t good enough. We carry that energy around, and other people start believing you aren’t good enough too. That affects every single aspect of your life, and the ironic thing is … you did this to yourself.
So, do not believe every woman or man on social media looks perfect all the time. If you want real motivation, look for the people who are not afraid to show you their flaws on their pictures. And, last for not least, build a habit of affirmations. Affirmations are one of the easiest ways to talk yourself back into a healthy self-esteem.
One of my favorite tricks is standing in front of the mirror before I do my hair and make-up and say my affirmations. This way, I know my self-esteem is not only based on how I look, but rather on who I truly am. It is easier to feel good about yourself when your hair looks great and your make up is on point. The challenge is believing you are still beautiful, smart, and capable looking how you look when you just got out of bed and you’re truly a hot mess.
Examples of affirmations: (extremely effective before going to bed and right after you get out of bed)
- “It’s only a thought, and a thought can be changed”.
- “I am in the process of positive change”.
- “I love you, I really love you.”
- “As I say yes to life, life says yes to me”.
- As I forgive myself, it becomes easier to forgive others”
- “I am willing to let go.”
- “I prosper wherever I turn”.
What are some of your favorite affirmations?